In a recent post, I described the wonderful outcome of my wife’s labour, and the arrival of Noah into our world. The labour process actually began 16 hours prior and even now, I don’t know how my wife did it, and I’m not sure if I could do the same.
The anxiety, and to a lesser extent, a fear of childbirth, is not uncommon. As a medical doctor and a husband of someone who had recently given birth via natural vaginal delivery and without any analgesic medications, I feel there may be pressure placed on women to:
Undergo natural vaginal delivery
Be analgesic-free or using minimal pain medications
If a woman’s pregnancy is medically uncomplicated, and there are no clinical indications for a caesarean section, a natural vaginal delivery is certainly to be encouraged. However, every woman strives to make an informed decision, the facets of which are multi-factorial and the decision-making process is influenced by previous personal experience, witnessed or anecdotal experiences of others, and the presence/absence of medical conditions (for mum and foetus).
Everyone of us have different pain thresholds, and advising someone in dire agony not to have analgesics is tantamount to subjecting someone to unnecessary and needless pain. I know of many women who choose both analgesic medications and elective caesarean sections to allay their pain and anxieties. They have gone on to become wonderful and doting mothers, and have never regretted their labouring choices.
In my opinion, no woman should be chided and judged on how she chooses her child to be delivered, and if she chooses to be prescribed analgesic medications during labour. In my eyes, every mother and every lady who have undergone the miraculous event that is labour, is a hero(ine). They should be cherished, saluted and celebrated.
So at the next available opportunity, turn to your better half and give her almighty hug. Tell her you love her and thank her for bringing so much joy into your life.
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